These are my thoughts on my sister Bonnie, whom we dearly loved.
My sister Bonnie died in June, virtually a year to the day from Cara’s death in 2020. This is the Eulogy I gave for her:
Bonnie was a second Mom to us. She often had to watch us while parents were working. 3 boys and 2 girls..Bonnie was the oldest. We, the boys, did our best to drive her crazy. That’s what little boys do. I have this vivid memory of a time we really got to her. She left the living room and came back waving a plunger, like she was going to hit us with it. We just laughed. She didn’t of course. We knew she wouldn’t. We didn’t know much, but even then we knew she would never hurt us. Because she loved us.
She was hurt though. Especially hurt growing up. And she had to deal with that pain her whole life. But I want to say that Bonnie never lost her dignity, her integrity, and her ability to be loving. She never let that be taken away from her. To find the healing she needed, she turned to love. And to find that love, God led her to her husband Tim. Over time, She healed in Tim’s arms.
Bonnie always loved everybody. Every single time I talked with her she ended with “I love you Peter”. It was important to her that I know that. Every time. And of course I would respond “I love you too Bonnie”.
Everyone who knew Bonnie knew she loved them. She got that simple loving nature from her Gramma Dora Siebert and her Mom Dorethy. Just love, that’s all. Just love. That was Bonnie.
Tim she adores you and you her, even now, and who could even question that? You took care of her through all of her illnesses , and there were quite a few, physical and emotional. You have been a saint to her Tim, and for all of that my family thanks you and loves you. And to her children whom she loved dearly, Conan, Josh, Mary Kate, you took care of her too. Your love for her always shined through. For that we love you and we thank you.
God calls us in God’s time, not ours. I know, in my heart, that Bonnie is totally cared for right now. She’s totally loved where she is. And she still loves all of us. And she will show that love.
Watch for her. You’ll see little signs here and there. She’ll let you know. All you need to do, is love her back.